Learn More About Dating Korean Women!

Hey there!

Long-time-no-post!

I’ve started to write about how to meet and date Korean women again. After 4 years of living in Korea I’ve decided to continue sharing.

Take a look at my new site called Korea-Dating-Tips.com

See you soon!

BlueM

BlueM’s Back With a QnA

Hey there!

Thank you for your concern and support when this blog went down.

I took it down because I didn’t think that it was bringing value.

I was wrong.

So…I’ll take your questions and answer them on the blog so that
everyone can benefit (just keep your name anonymous or ask me to make it so.)

That way we can get into what the real problems are.

At your service,

BlueM

Goodbye for now…

Hey everyone,

I’m moving on towards new things in my life and I’ll be closing this blog.

I thank you for reading and if you want to hang out in Seoul feel free to

pm me at BlueMysteryPUA@gmail.com

Good luck everyone.

BlueM

To study Korean or not study Korean?

Hey everyone!
Sorry for not having been on for a while. Anyway, here I go with a question for you…

Let’s say you’re working to achieve something (like having a stress-free lifestyle, or making traveling a part of your life) and let’s say you achieve that something sooner than you thought:

Would you still go through the work to get it? Or would you stop working and would enjoy what you’ve just got?

In my case, I know that many men (and women) learn Korean to attract a Korean partner (or partners).

I know that I’m learning Korean so that I can better communicate with the women I bring into my life, and so that they can share more of their feelings and such with me.

But let’s say that I accidentally met a woman that Korean woman that I can communicate better with, and that with whom I can already share feelings (and more). Would I need to study Korean anymore?

What if I’m in the middle of my semester?

This is an important question because we all need to remember what we’re doing stuff for and for whom we’re doing it. Too many people for get that and end up using money and time for things they don’t need! ㅜㅜ

If my goal was to attract a partner and better speak with her, then learning Korean is a waste of my time in this case.

Granted, if I wanted to simply improve my Korean to make my life here more enjoyable, then I would keep studying (which is my case thankfully ^^).

Keep an eye on what you want, go for it, and know when you’ve got it so that you can enjoy other things in your life.

Anyways, just my humble opinion. What do you think?

Blue

Prettier women are more willing to walk away from unwanted circumstances!

Hey everyone!

So I’ve started meeting prettier women and I’ve noticed something that I has been happening lately -
The prettier the woman is, the more rigid her rules of the relationship are, and the more willing (or entranced?) you’ll be to following them!

When I was dating pretty women, I felt more of a ‘laissez-faire’ kind of attitude. But now that I’m going for really beautiful Korean brunettes, I notice how I need to be sharper and hold stronger frames because they know what they want, and they are more willing to walk away if they don’t get what they want!

So what do you do?

Well, for now this has helped me focus on knowing my own boundaries and what I’m willing to put with, personally.

This is important because, sure, when with a woman it’s all fun and games – but there is some negotiating and power struggling going on at the same time.

Know what you’re willing to deal with, and what you’ll never put up with – and have faith that there are better women for you!

This is maybe why I find interacting with women so much fun.

It’s a constant adventure filled with lust, passion, grief, sorrow, compromise, and maybe even betrayal and deceit.

I would love to hear your opinions on this, as you find yourself meeting prettier and higher quality Korean women.

Or maybe this is something that’s happening all around the world?

Find Out The Truth About Why Korean Women Dress Sexy!

Hey there!
How are you doing?

Good? Well, let’s make your day a little bit better!

Imagine being in a coffee shop, and you’re sipping on a cup of coffee (or tea) and you see a gorgeous Korean woman, walking by. But here’s the thing:

She’s not gorgeous because of her looks perse, but because of how she dresses, and how her sexy black skirt complements her long legs, resting on dark red shoes that would make any (straight) man grow a bulging banana in his pocket.

Her lips are covered in a sensual red lipstick, which, combined with her wavy dark silk hair, makes you drool your coffee back in your cup.

….mmmm……delicious…..right?

Feeling lucky, you decide to strike a conversation with her, and she’s quite keen to talk with you. She giggles, and you both get to know each other…but you notice that something is…well…strange.

In fact, you can’t put your finger on it, but you feel like you’re something’s not quite right. NOT because of her or your intentions…but because you feel like the lady that caught your eye (the impression you get from her appearance) and who you’re interacting with are not just slightly different, but are, in fact TWO different people!

In any case, you decide to keep moving things forward. Let’s say you do get a date with her, and you’ve both reached a point where you both choose to make it sexual – and you find out the truth…

a truth that answers your…gut feeling…she’s a virgin!

Now don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin.

What IS wrong is dressing in a very sexual way, and give off a sexual vibe, and THEN end up being someone completely different. In fact, being the opposite of who you are portraying.

So you see a woman like this in a million, you figure that it’s no biggy…but in Korea and when it comes to Korean women…you’re wrong.

DEAD wrong.

In fact, I’d say that two thirds of the Korean women out there dress sensually, AND YET more than half of those women have yet to have had proper sex (from a Westerner’s point of view).

So what’s going on?

Well, from my point of view, and level of experience with Korea, and Korean women , I am theorizing that:

Korean women dress sexually not to express but to escape from themselves!

In Korean culture, women are not allowed to show their sexual side as much, if at all, and most women are doomed to a life of sexual dissatisfaction (just ask around about how “good in bed” Korean boyfriends or hubbies are).

Granted, the culture and upbringing here is designed to make sex not as important as say, family loyalty (which can be argued to be a good thing. It keeps family and Korean society together). Sex for Korean women in general, is taught that it isn’t that important.

But the fact still remains – Korean women are sexually frustrated and want to find a way out (albeit a socially acceptable way)

So the next time you meet a well-dressed Korean women, don’t expect her personality to match the clothing. In fact, one can even argue that the more sexually they dress, the more sexually frustrated they are…and they are okay with that.

Thanks for reading! Sign up for regular updates and you can always check out my ebook that I wrote a year back but that still holds today!

BlueM

Korean women don’t want boyfriends – they want boys!

Hey guys,
Imagine you’re in the Seoul subway, and you see a cute couple…

Then you start noticing some things…small things…that make a big impression.

For one thing you see that the boyfriend is the one carrying the girlfriend’s purse!

Then you notice the bodylanguage, and how the boyfriend tends to lean towards the girlfriend.

Finally you hear them talking, and even though you don’t understand anything, you feel like the boyfriend is trying to get approval, or validation from the girlfriend. It’s like he’s her entertainer!

Granted, maybe I’ve been in Seoul too long and need a break. Maybe it’s because I’m still shocked (and bummed) that a girl I liked cut me out to be with another guy just because he offered to be her boyfriend!

Then again, why would a Korean woman want a boy, and not a man?

It’s because boys are trainable…and men, by definition, are not.

Boys can be trained as lap dogs more easily, to carry her stuff, spend his valuable weekends with her, and much more, in the name of the relationship!

When in reality, she’s got her catch and is now training him to

Be aware of your competition fellas! A bunch of guys who are willing to offer their manhood on a platter for the sake of not being lonely (or something).

How can men compete with that? How can men want to compete with that?

Anyways, these are just my thoughts. And when I say ‘boys’ I’m not talking about only Korean men. I’m talking about “men” in general, who are eagerly willing to give up self-esteem and their values for pussy. In Korea the ratio of these boys to men is higher than I’ve ever seen yet!

Thanks for readin’

BlueM

Men! Don’t settle into being a boyfriend!

Hey everyone,
Yesterday I got a rejection because the girl I was keen on had a boyfriend.

Naturally, I was hurt but I’ll be okay because I have other prospects lined up.

The point I want to make with this post, however, is that too often I find that guys will throw being a boyfriend, in order to get the girl.

Now there’s nothing wrong with having a girlfriend and with being a boyfriend. I have no issue with that.

What I do have an issue with, however, is guys becoming a boyfriend with a girl they barely know! They went out once, hooked up, and BAM there a boyfriend.

This is dangerous!

Why?

Well, actually, for a woman it’s great! She gets security and only had to fuck the guy once! Unless, she’s still sampling (in which case, she wouldn’t want a boyfriend)

For a man, however, it’s a different story. You’re giving away your ability to meet and date other women, not to mention the time commitment with a woman who hasn’t really earned the right to be your girlfriend!

But hey, if you’re looking for that false sense of security, then go for it.

Only know this,

Men for too long have been giving away their value at too low a price, while women (with society’s help) have been upping the value of their pussy.

Do you know why?

Because we, men, let them. We don’t want better for ourselves as a whole and so we end up in Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationships that, not only, are we not happy with but that we’re settled into.

We second-guess ourselves!, and then maybe cheat!

Note: For me, boyfriend/girlfriend means exclusivity. Fucking other people in a bf/gf relationship is cheating.

Oh, and by the way, just because she’s your girlfriend (in Asia anyway) means she probably only wanted the title of ‘girlfriend’ and couldn’t give two hoots about you.

Proof? Just last week I almost ended up fucking a married woman, but didn’t push it further because it felt, well, wrong!

You don’t get into serious relationships for a chance at having pussy on tap, and you don’t get into marriages for the security!

You get into them because you genuinely feel like you want one AND she has earned the right to be your girlfriend or wife!

Please stop settling. It makes men look bad, and the rest of us have to give up more liberties.

This is, of course, just my opinion, and mainly my opinion about relationships in Korea. Please feel free to comment.

BlueM

Are we slaves to our sex drives?

Hey guys,
I’m reading a book called ‘Sexploytation’ which has gotten me thinking a lot about us men, and our situation when it comes to dating and relationships.

Are we, men, slaves to our sex drives?

Have you ever been in a situation where doing something important and a pretty woman comes by? You catch her out of the corner of your eye, and just looking at her has gotten you into a different state of mind…where you just wanted to fuck her? This makes you stop what you’re doing and sends you off into a different world.
Ever had that?

If you’re a fully functioning guy (and not gay, which is cool) I’m sure you have.

The thing is: how come our brains, designed to help us at our task at hand, sends us into an intoxicating trance just because a woman walks by?

How come we can’t say “cool a pretty woman” and leave it at that? especially if we’re doing something important?

Sure, meeting the pretty woman and reproducing is quite important for our genes, but is it important, at that moment, for us?

It’s because of our sex drives as men, which has a mind of it’s own, puts us and our desires in the back seat.

For example, I was at a friend’s party yesterday, where there were both guys and gals. I was mingling with everyone, especially some of the girls that genuinelly enjoyed.

The thing is that my other friends, and clients enjoyed them as well.
One in particular, was into this girl I had just number closed.

So what does one do? Do I compromise my client for the sake of satisfying my sex drive? Or do I diss my client and his needs for my own sex drive (I say my sex drive, because right now in my life, I’m meeting enough women as it is but my sex drive is unsatiable I guess)?

What would you do? Would you go for your sex drive or your friend? Or maybe even for your yourself or your friend?

Anyways this is something that you as a man, must think about.

Are you living, breathing, working and struggling for you? Or are you doing it for your sex drive?

Thanks for reading!

BlueM

Thoughts on Korea and Korean society

Hey everyone!
Sorry I haven’t posted here in a while. Am now working on another site which is taking more of my time.

Anyways, I want to share an interesting revelation that I’ve had while talking with RedpoleQ about Asia, but more specifically Korea (even more specifically, South Korea).

South Korea is very interesting because although it is technologically advanced, globalized more than it’s ever been, multi-cultural and an all around dynamically changing country, the people are still using an agrarian model of life.

You see, Koreans have very deeply rooted traditions that they are not letting go of, in spite of living in a new situation.

For example, Koreans will ask “have you had food?” instead of “how are you?” Or Koreans will say “suffer well” instead of “goodbye!”

If you look at the last 50 years or so of Korea, you will see how they had gone through some tough times and went literally from a 3rd world nation to one of the top 20 economies in the world.

Yet

People don’t allow themselves to indulge in lifestyles that go beyond basic survival.

They cling to social groups to make sure that they are part of a whole (better chances to survive), they drink notoriously to get rid of the pain of life (again because they are merely surviving), they push to get in line for anything (in order to survive you had to fight your way for anything) and much more.

Now why is this important?

Well, think about it from a Korean woman’s perspective. She’s brought up in a society that has more opportunities than it has ever had in the past, and yet she has a culture that is, for all intents and purposes, is designed for an agrarian society (thus obsolete).

So now the ‘waygukin’ comes in. You are some new, different, fresh. Being open-minded and wanting to try new things in life, she might want to go out on a date with you. Hell, she might like you so much she would want to be your girlfriend!

But alas, she lives in a world that held back by obsolete ideas and beliefs. She is in no social position to indulge in what she really wants, because it would hurt her chances of her survival in Korean society.

That is why foreigners who come here have a much harder time. Being with a foreigner (unless the foreigner has a high-status job) is not only a hindrance, but actually detrimental to her chances of surviving in her culture!

Many Korean men would not date a woman who has been with a foreigner. Many more would not even sleep with a prostitute that has been with a foreigner!

Why?

I don’t know why. Korea is Korea is Korea.

All I can say to all this is that, as the waygukin, just sit back, relax, and enjoy the changes because they sure are coming.

BlueM