Hey guys,
So I came back to Korea last week, and I noticed something that was
very interesting these past few days.

I see more mixed couples.

I see less resentment towards foreigners.

I see a Korea that is becoming more and more international and most importantly….
mature.

Being a foreigner is more and more “in” nowadays.

I was wondering what was causing this gradual change, and after talking with one of my mentors who
has been here for more than 10 years, he told me that, in his opinion, people and most importantly the media stopped flaming foreigners as much because of a certain incident

In this situation, a foreigner with darkskin beat a Korean adjosshi in Korean court!

You can read about it here.

Once that happened, Koreans probably started realizing that racial slurs will NO LONGER go un-punished.

Another interesting article that I just found while I was looking for the above link is right here.

This one is very important for those of us who come here as English teachers (which number I think WILL go up because of the current economic trends)

So there you go. Being a foreigner is ‘in’ again…so enjoy it while it lasts ‘cauze the whiplash will come back.

Anyways, thanks for reading!

BlueM

The difference between men and women

Hey guys,
sorry I haven’t been posting much.  Anyways, here’s something I’ve learned from my good mentors Kid44 and RedpoleQ

You see, men and women think differently.

For men, it’s all about whether she likes him, or she doesn’t.

Either it’s A or B.  From there, we will act accordingly.

Either she likes me, or she doesn’t.

If she likes me, I’ll do X and if she doesn’t like me, I’ll do Y.

Logical enough, right?

In male-female interactions you want to understand how women think and use that for your (and her) benefit.

Women constantly focus on the tension between A and B.

They love wondering: He loves me? He loves me not?

That’s why dramas, romance novels, where you’re never sure about the relationship between the two people, appeal so much to women.

Hell, there’s even a game girls play where they pull pedals of a flower just to relive that tension!

That’s why I’m asking you: what do you want?  When you ask yourself if you want to know her feelings,

Do you genuinely want to know how she feels? or is that your male-logic trying to figure out if her feelings for you are A or B?

If it’s the latter, don’t worry about how she feels. If the interaction is moving along well, and you guys are getting closer to your desired outcome then just keep going.

Too many guys get caught up on the “what are her feelings towards me?” to satisfy that ‘A or B‘ mechanism and then they even ask her!

Now for a woman, a guy who is asking about how she feels for her, is what kind of guy?

A needy one!

So where does she slot you? More importantly, is there any tension in the ‘he loves me/he loves me not’ dichotomy?  Nope!

She gets bored, and moves on.

What a pity.

Don’t let that happen to you!

Anyways, thanks for reading and keep improving yourselves!

BlueM

A Startling Fact about Marriage and Society!

So you want to get married?

Great idea!  While you’re at it, how about buying a new car on the way?
What’s that you say? You think I’m kidding?
Did you know – people spend more time looking for and evaluating their dream car, than they do their dream partner.
Well, that’s not true.

The parents who hire match makers do spend the most time in getting you married.
The women who have planned their wedding will do whatever it takes to marry you – if you’re their catch.

According to Reverend Lawrence Shannon in the book Predatory Female, the author talks about how some women consciously or subconsciously plan out weddings and get married for the sake of snatching you.

So what am I saying?  Am I saying that marriage is a bad idea?

Not at all!
I’m saying that more people (especially men) spend more time, energy and money towards getting into their perfect car, perfect home, and perfect job

but

when it comes to finding their perfect partner for life, we spend a lot less towards getting to know that person we put the ring on.

…don’t let this be you….

Is it our fault that we don’t know how to evaluate our mates?

no.

There are many reasons for why we don’t do the proper due diligence towards finding our ideal mate.
For one thing, we don’t even know what to look for!

“Do we look at her habits?”  “Do we look at her previous relationships?”

Well…yes and no.
“How do we go about getting the information we need to find out if she’s for us?

Do we just ask her?”

No.  It’s too easy to lie about. It’s too easy to deceive….especially for men who have little to no experience with women.

Men who don’t know what to look for or what to do.

Especially rich men who’ve spent their lives building businesses and accumulating wealth.

Did you know that women are learning how to ’snatch’ rich men? There are even websites such as Millionairematch!

Worse than that.  Our societies, against their better judgment, don’t really want you to do your due diligence to get married (I’ll get into this later).

This is especially true for societies in Asia.

This is food for thought for you guys.

I’ll definitely go into this as time goes on.

BlueM

How to become a winner by next new years!

Hey everyone!

I want to wish everyone a happy new year!
Usually, on January 1st (after recovering from my hangover) I reflect on my future and where I want to be at the end of next year.

This is the day I set up my goals, strategies, and rewards (for genuine motivation).

For example, one of my goals might be to go meet my total ten for a girlfriend by 12.31.10
My strategy would be to define what she is like:  Student, speaks English, mid 20s, etc..

and then

I would then map out where most probably is:  bookstores, universities, coffee shops near

universities.
And then, I would use my system and meet around 40-60 women a week (which works for me) until I found her and made what I wanted to happen (which, at my skill level, would take around 2 weeks to find her).

Granted, this is just one of my goals, and I believe that a person needs to work on many

areas of his/her life such as their health, wealth, and happiness.
This is different than resolution (which is more of a flimsy attempt at accomplishing something, which you know will

In any case, have a happy new years and see you in 2010!

BlueM

getting tattoos for the first time!

Hey everyone!

I want to post about how I got my very first tattoo!

With those whom I’ve talked about it, I don’t mean to create some Korean drama   but

this is something I’ve wanted to get for some time.

The key was where do you want to get it.
For me, I wanted it in some place sexy. Thankfully when the tattoo artist gave me ideas of where to put it, I found a spot that I felt completely comfortable with it being there.
The thing that got to me the most was the pain from getting the tattoo, so you want to beware

of that if you ever plan on getting one.

It felt like having a giant mosquito piercing deep into your body, and playing around as it cuts through your skin….ughh.

Anyway, I’m glad I got it.
Something to add for my adventures in Korea.

BlueM

A shocking report – For a real man only!

Hey everyone,

how was your christmas holiday? Receive many christmas gifts?

I got to spend time with my family in the U.S., and that was most rewarding.

Well, that and getting a hookah for Christmas

Anyway, today I want to talk to you about something very valuable I’ve been reading from a book called Sex-Ploytation.

Early on in the book it says that:

“A man will not get laid
until a woman has convinced herself that she is not a whore.”

It’s a very profound quote because it explains a lot of why men do what they do…

to get laid.

You see, I’ve always believed that with Game, we are the ones running game on women….but

in a bitter reality, women are running Game on us, while giving us the illusion that

we’re the ones who have good game.

Kinda like Neo in the 2nd Matrix when he discovers that, even he with all his power and skill, is still under the control

of what he tried to escape from in the first place – manipulation by those who don’t have his best interests at heart.

I don’t know about you, but I find it shocking. Especially when you’ve devoted so much time, money and energy

into getting good game, only to realize that what you’ve discovered instead….is the true nature of what you’re up

against: The true nature of social behavior in dating, and the women who control it.

And worse still…

With all your great game, 

money and status

good looks

sexual prowess

not only do you not control it, but you are also still under its control.

Anyway, this is just my opinion. Please feel free to comment as I’d love to hear your opinions because -

As men, we’re all in this together.   It’s time we broke the chains that our sexual lust and it’s exploitation by society, has put on us.

BlueM

PS:  For quality improvement as a man, I recommend reading The Way of the Superior Man
just beware of the author’s frames on relationships.

A quick rant about Korea, Women and Travelling.

If you ever come to Korea, women here will act differently than women overseas.

For one thing, the women here are much more feminine and

willing to let you lead.

This is especially true when you travel in Korea, south of Seoul.

The only difference is once you go out of Seoul, Korea, men outside of Seoul are much

less tolerant of you talking to Korean women.

You can sense that intolerance when you watch Korean Dramas and such. It just feels like they

don’t care much for foreigners here; going on dates in Korea with Korean women.

This is especially sad in the Winter because the women wear boots that are very sexy and

make you melt in the winter lol.

So if you’re in Korea, travel around the country, get to know the people and enjoy the sight of

every cute Korean woman that you come across because the way they look and hold themselves

is rare in this world.

BlueM

The “Rule of 3″ and how it can save YOU from flakes!

Hey everyone!
Want to share with you something I use that has been saving me
from having to set dates,
getting out of my comfortable place to go where we agreed to go,
show up
and she’s not there.

She flaked – I find out.

I find flakes to be very irresponsible, and so I made sure that I never wasted my time again.

Here’s what I do now and it has saved me from, literally hundreds of flakes

and now it will do it for you too!

I set everything up during the first interaction. I timebridge and then number close.

After number closing, I call her and then only send 2 texts:
1 – Instantly I call her and say “hey ____, guess who?” this gets her laughing.
2 – At the end of the night “it was nice meeting you. See you on ______ at ____o’clock!”

If she responds, that means that it’s probably still on.

3 – On the same day as the date, I text her early during the day with “hey _____, I’m sorry but I’m going to be 10 minutes late. See you at _____!”

If she responds with ‘okay’ or something similar, it’s on. If not, she’s gonna flake.

That’s it. That’s the only time I use texting and it’s to save me from flakes.

Otherwise, If I am going to contact her on the phone to set up things I call them.

That’s right. I call them. It sets you apart and says nothing but good things about you.

Thanks for reading!

BlueM

THE way that will get girls YOU want hooked!

Hey guys! It’s Blue!

I’ve been getting a lot of questions on what to say when you first meet a woman,
and I want to share with you what I use.

Instead of focusing on what to say, I focus on my thought process.

THE thought that I run in my mind constantly is:

What’s funny about this situation?

That’s it.

In my mind, I always have the word: FUNNY!

This gets me going into interactions without feeling nervous,
it gets my energy up, AND it makes sure that at least, I’ll have a good time!

If you have things that you say to women, or situations where you meet women regularly
and want to make it funny, send them my way and I will make
them funny for you!

That way, you can use them right away AND make yourself laugh (and her too if she has a sense of humor ) AND will get you thinking the same way I am that will boost
your success!

BlueM

Prepare yourselves! Winter is here!

Hey everyone,
so Winter and Christmas are coming up here in Asia. How is that good or bad?

Well, for one thing, I’m not a big Winter fan. That’s why I tend to work hard to bring some women in my life before Winter comes in so that I can hibernate!

I recommend you guys do that as well.

In fact, in Korea there is a term called: Winter Boyfriend or Winter Girlfriend (거월 남자 진구/ 여자 진구) as people here know just how cold it can get here.

Also, Christmas is coming up and in Asia, that’s the time for Boyfriend/Girlfriend! This can be quite stressful for men and women who have multiple lovers in their lives. What do you do?

Personally, this is when I leave town and just tell them all that I’m unavailable on Christmas day but that I can and will share an intimate moment with them some day before that.

You see, I too, enjoy having intimate moments with my girls, but I want to do it on my terms and without lying.

I recommend that you all do the same!

Thanks for reading.

BlueM